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How to stay centred in turbulent times
As you know things have escalated rapidly with the Coronavirus situation.
Very few of us will remain unaffected and most of us are having to make significant adjustments to our lives.
*We have lost our freedom to travel and in some cases are having to self-isolate.
*The markets have tumbled.
*There are real implications for our businesses and finances.
*Many people are concerned for their health and the health of others.
One thing for sure is that the more sensational the media make it the better it is for them. It thrives on creating drama of it all.
So, how can we avoid freaking out, maintain a sense of perspective and make intelligent choices given the situation?
Importantly, how can we also be there for each other and look for how we can be supportive to our clients?
I find it incredibly helpful to remember that there are only two basic emotions:
Love or fear
The way our physiology and neurology respond to each of these is completely different.
When experiencing fear your body is flooded with stress hormones in readiness to immediate danger. Your heart rate increases, you produce a variety of hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol and you become hyper-alert.
Fear is natural and designed to protect you. But fear isn’t useful when it’s prolonged, overwhelms you and distorts your ability to think and behave clearly and intelligently. It also has a negative effect upon your immune system.
Fear can make us feel isolated, aggressive and self-orientated – panic buying is one example when it deprives others of what they need.
When talking about love I don’t mean personal love, I mean an intimate sense of connection to everyone and all living things. Your connection to spirit. It’s a state of mind where fear is absent, you are present to what is but feel at peace, calm and can approach and solve problems with a sense of ease.
The physiology of love is that a completely different set of chemicals and hormones are released into your body. It is healthy and healing.
Some people might think, “How can I possibly feel love and at peace with the world seemingly crashing down all around me?”
Whatever we are experiencing in each moment, where is it coming from?
A favourite book of mine is ‘One thought changes everything’ by Mara Gleason. Her dad, CEO of a billion-dollar advertising business in the US, writes in his chapter:
“Oftentimes, we think that circumstances dictate our reality, that our lives and our experience of life is shaped by the world around us as an outside-in experience. I have learned that this is not the case. Circumstances do not shape our experience of life; we do. Each of us, every minute of every day, has the ability to shape and experience our reality from a more profound place, a deeper dimension, a more human place.”
A friend of mine carries around with him a small pack of cards and he invites people to choose one at random from the pack. Each one has an inspiring message on it.
A few weeks ago, he asked me to choose one and I have tacked it onto my desktop screen. It says:
This moment matters
This moment is the only one we have, and we can operate from love or we can operate from fear.
As a society, we have been operating from fear and in doing so we have become disconnected from our spirit, our planet, our fellow human beings, and nature.
Although we can easily get drawn into a negative frame of mind this situation has also brought out a great deal of kindness, compassion and caring. Many people are doing wonderful things for their communities.
We are presented with the opportunity to be of service to people, build relationships and reconnect to the deeper dimension of who we really are.
The choice is ours to make.
P.S. you can download a useful graphic with the distinction between ‘above the line thinking and below the line thinking’. Click here. Let me know if you find it useful.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
John Dashfield spent 14 years as a self-employed adviser. Since 2006 he has been a coach, mentor and author helping advisers create transformations in their business and personal lives.